Wednesday, January 14, 2026
People with dementia
There is a frequent assumption that such people have lost their marbles. I think it is more complicated, with issues on both sides.
The patient is obviously seeing himself as the underdog based on his experience, and probably wants to be more forceful to improve the balance. The helper just wants an , and and easy life with no trouble from the patient. It is unlikely to end well. And that confirms both sides' opinions.
The helper has to be an extremely good listener to be able to navigate this sensibly. The patient must try and remain relaxed. This will rarely happen.
It is probably best just to walk away and come back to it later. But few people are capable of this.
My father experienced a number of emergencies with my mother's health, and he reacted as well as anyone to the situation.
I guess I am saying demented people react badly if pushed, and carers tend to push. Dare one say it, more haste less speed.
M
